UNRAVELING YOUR PAST  to get into the present

Written by Paulette-Renee Broqueville

Unravel your subconscious mind -your computer brain!

Who am I and who are you? Did you ever wonder why people treat you the way they do? The sound of someone's voice can make one person feel fear, another joy and yet another will feel sadness. Why? The reason is because we are prisoners of our subconscious minds - our memories trigger responses of joy, fear, happiness - and they are all stored in our subconscious minds. To one person that voice sounds like Mother, to another a special teacher, and to yet another a lost lover. Each person reacts to the same person's voice differently. One runs away and shuns contact for fear of being abused - another befriends the person as a special friend and the third cannot face the sadness he or she feels and rejects the person. You are that person, rejected, loved or feared! You voice is triggering automatic responses -feelings of acceptance or rejection. People you meet are prisoners of their subconscious minds - they are on automatic pilot. So who am I and who are you?

I am who you believe me to be and you are who I believe you to be, because we are both trapped in the subconscious mind. You can remove bad memories of 50 years ago or 5 minutes ago by reading Unraveling Your Past to get into the present and by doing the mental exercises described in this book.

Written by Paulette Renee Broqueville, this book contains over 200 mental exercises to help you unravel your subconscious mind. When you do clean out your mental closet you will be free to be in the present with each person you meet. We cannot control the feelings others have for us but we can control our own feelings. Here are a few exercises from the book to help you unravel your subconscious mind

Exercise: When you have a negative reaction to a person say, "I know why I feel this way about this person!" Keep saying, "I know why!" until your subconscious mind tells you what the connection is between this person and your past. The subconscious mind will obey you. If you say "I don't know why!" the subconscious mind will obediently never tell you but if you say "I know why!" it cannot help but to reveal all it knows.

 

Exercise: Now that you know why, what can you do with the information. Let's say that your subconscious mind gives you a memory of a mean teacher you had. This person, in the present, is not your teacher but happens to remind you of this teacher. Let us remove the emotions you had from having had a mean teacher. Sit or lie down and without moving your head, move your eyes from far right (stretch them) to far left (stretch them hard) and then return from left to right. (it takes about 5 seconds per pass from right to left) While continuing to move your eyes slowly from side to side concentrate on the feelings, the experience, and the memory your subconscious mind has given you. Continue with this exercise until you have a peaceful feeling while you are remembering the past. This exercise can be done for any negative memory you have. The new person you just met will no longer conjure up the past feelings, for your subconscious mind has been changed - you have been changed. The past has been unraveled and you are now able to be in the present. New people you meet will be just that - new - not an unpleasant memory but a clean page on which to start a relationship.

 

Read the first chapter here.

Pathway 1:

 

The Soul/Sole Personality
versus The Ego-Personalities


The Fork In the Road. Your two choices are:
To be the Soul that you were born to be.
To hide behind ego-personalities pretending
to be you.
Were you raised by parents who used a limited vocabulary of GRUNTS and GROANS, peppered with bursts of short temper and misappropriated blame? Were your parents deaf—to the sound of your voice? Did you keep your feelings to yourself because there was no one to share them with anyway? And now that you are "big" did you turn out to be just like him or her, a chip off the old block, just like you never wanted to be?
Or, were you raised by parents who helped you grow up peacefully and encouragingly, who taught you how to think and encouraged you to think; parents who liked to hear your opinions and who encouraged you to express your opinions?
I once heard a speaker divide people into two broad categories: functional and dysfunctional. I call the functional: the unmasked, or ‘soul/sole- personality’ people; and, the dysfunctional: the masked, or ‘multiple ego- personality’ people. The ‘multiple ego-personality’ people learned early in life that they needed protection from harmful blows and words, in an inhospitable world. To protect themselves, each one put on a mask, because the faces of their souls were—frightened.
FUNCTIONAL PERSONALITY — ‘SOUL/SOLE-PERSONALITY’
The functional people or the unmasked people are those who have been raised by parents who discussed things with them. When they were little people they were made to understand why things were done the way they were. Their questions were encouraged and answered. Their parents listened to them, and they listened to their parents. They were free to express their own opinions, and more importantly, their own feelings. They are the ones who have been raised without violence as their teacher; and therefore, they have had the freedom to learn from observation and study; as well as, having had the luxury to express their true feelings without reprisal. When one is raised in this way one does not have to hide behind a mask or other personalities to protect oneself—to protect one’s true self—one’s soul personality. This is how we teach our children to think for themselves and to be their own leaders and their own teachers. Parents teach by their example:
1. Parents with well thought out opinions can explain to their child why they have made their decisions to allow an activity or not to allow an activity.
2. This will teach the child to think about his or her decisions to act or not to act.
3. This will teach the child to be responsible for his or her own actions and words: the child learns to be his own leader and to think for himself or herself. This is the object of parenthood.
THE MASK
In our search for who we are, many of us have traveled far and wide to other lands and peoples, all the time asking ourselves, "Who am I?" What is stopping us from being ourselves or knowing who we are? Could it be that we have been playing a role—someone else—all of our lives? A role that others have expected us to play or a role which has been safe to hide behind—in other words, a Mask. "If I have been playing a role all of my life," you say, "then how can I find out who I am?" I have written this book to help ‘you’ discover who ‘you’ are. We will go step by step to unravel your past, to get you into the present as ‘you.’ We will begin by discovering how some of us learned to be someone else, learned to play a role, began wearing a mask—and it all begins in childhood.
CHILDHOOD IN THE DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY
Growing up in a dysfunctional family, the baby, ‘you,’ began to express yourself—your wants, your likes and your dislikes. You soon learned that you were not free to have an opinion different than the adults. You learned to feel fear because you could not make yourself heard, much less understood. This leads to a fear that your needs will not be fulfilled, such as: thirst, hunger, sleep, peace and quiet, happiness, time to play, and positive attention from parents or adults. Your next survival thought is "How can I get what I want without directly asking for it?" From this lack of freedom to be honest about ‘who I am’, we learn to build a life on make-believe, we learn to play a role: become an actress or an actor, just to get our needs or wants met or to get the attention of someone we want to love us. Becoming dysfunctional—wearing a mask or playing a role—is a survival technique in a dysfunctional family. We grow up concentrating on other people’s ‘wants’ and ‘don’t wants.’ Based upon the other person’s ‘wants’ we know which mask to wear to get our ‘I wants’ fulfilled. This is how we learn to play a role and put on a mask. All this to convince or trick the other person into giving us what we want. Some of us play as many or more than 20 roles: always being someone else, wearing masks, living a make-believe life, never being able to be ourselves. I call these masks, ego-personalities.

 

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Paulette Renee Broqueville