YOUR PAST to get into the present
by Paulette-Renee Broqueville
your subconscious mind -your computer brain!
am I and who are you? Did you ever wonder why people
treat you the way they do? The sound of someone's voice
can make one person feel fear, another joy and yet another
will feel sadness. Why? The reason is because we are
prisoners of our subconscious minds - our memories trigger
responses of joy, fear, happiness - and they are all
stored in our subconscious minds. To one person that
voice sounds like Mother, to another a special teacher,
and to yet another a lost lover. Each person reacts
to the same person's voice differently. One runs away
and shuns contact for fear of being abused - another
befriends the person as a special friend and the third
cannot face the sadness he or she feels and rejects
the person. You are that person, rejected, loved or
feared! You voice is triggering automatic responses
-feelings of acceptance or rejection. People you meet
are prisoners of their subconscious minds - they are
on automatic pilot. So who am I and who are you?
am who you believe me to be and you are who I believe
you to be, because we are both trapped in the subconscious
mind. You can remove bad memories of 50 years ago or
5 minutes ago by reading Unraveling Your Past
to get into the present and
by doing the mental exercises described in this book.
by Paulette Renee Broqueville, this book contains over
200 mental exercises to help you unravel your subconscious
mind. When you do clean out your mental closet you will
be free to be in the present with each person you meet.
We cannot control the feelings others have for us but
we can control our own feelings. Here are a few exercises
from the book to help you unravel your subconscious
When you have a negative reaction to a person say, "I
know why I feel this way about this person!" Keep
saying, "I know why!" until your subconscious
mind tells you what the connection is between this person
and your past. The subconscious mind will obey you.
If you say "I don't know why!" the subconscious
mind will obediently never tell you but if you say "I
know why!" it cannot help but to reveal all it
Now that you know why, what can you do with the information.
Let's say that your subconscious mind gives you a memory
of a mean teacher you had. This person, in the present,
is not your teacher but happens to remind you of this
teacher. Let us remove the emotions you had from having
had a mean teacher. Sit or lie down and without moving
your head, move your eyes from far right (stretch them)
to far left (stretch them hard) and then return from
left to right. (it takes about 5 seconds per pass from
right to left) While continuing to move your eyes slowly
from side to side concentrate on the feelings, the experience,
and the memory your subconscious mind has given you.
Continue with this exercise until you have a peaceful
feeling while you are remembering the past. This exercise
can be done for any negative memory you have. The new
person you just met will no longer conjure up the past
feelings, for your subconscious mind has been changed
- you have been changed. The past has been unraveled
and you are now able to be in the present. New people
you meet will be just that - new - not an unpleasant
memory but a clean page on which to start a relationship.
the first chapter here.
versus The Ego-Personalities
The Fork In the Road. Your two choices
To be the Soul that you were born to be.
To hide behind ego-personalities pretending
to be you.
Were you raised by parents who used a limited vocabulary
of GRUNTS and GROANS, peppered with bursts of short
temper and misappropriated blame? Were your parents
deafto the sound of your voice? Did you keep your
feelings to yourself because there was no one to share
them with anyway? And now that you are "big"
did you turn out to be just like him or her, a chip
off the old block, just like you never wanted to be?
Or, were you raised by parents who helped you grow up
peacefully and encouragingly, who taught you how to
think and encouraged you to think; parents who liked
to hear your opinions and who encouraged you to express
I once heard a speaker divide people into two broad
categories: functional and dysfunctional. I call the
functional: the unmasked, or soul/sole- personality
people; and, the dysfunctional: the masked, or multiple
ego- personality people. The multiple ego-personality
people learned early in life that they needed protection
from harmful blows and words, in an inhospitable world.
To protect themselves, each one put on a mask, because
the faces of their souls werefrightened.
FUNCTIONAL PERSONALITY SOUL/SOLE-PERSONALITY
The functional people or the unmasked people are those
who have been raised by parents who discussed things
with them. When they were little people they were made
to understand why things were done the way they were.
Their questions were encouraged and answered. Their
parents listened to them, and they listened to their
parents. They were free to express their own opinions,
and more importantly, their own feelings. They are the
ones who have been raised without violence as their
teacher; and therefore, they have had the freedom to
learn from observation and study; as well as, having
had the luxury to express their true feelings without
reprisal. When one is raised in this way one does not
have to hide behind a mask or other personalities to
protect oneselfto protect ones true selfones
soul personality. This is how we teach our children
to think for themselves and to be their own leaders
and their own teachers. Parents teach by their example:
1. Parents with well thought out opinions can explain
to their child why they have made their decisions to
allow an activity or not to allow an activity.
2. This will teach the child to think about his or her
decisions to act or not to act.
3. This will teach the child to be responsible for his
or her own actions and words: the child learns to be
his own leader and to think for himself or herself.
This is the object of parenthood.
In our search for who we are, many of us have traveled
far and wide to other lands and peoples, all the time
asking ourselves, "Who am I?" What is stopping
us from being ourselves or knowing who we are? Could
it be that we have been playing a rolesomeone
elseall of our lives? A role that others have
expected us to play or a role which has been safe to
hide behindin other words, a Mask. "If I
have been playing a role all of my life," you say,
"then how can I find out who I am?" I have
written this book to help you discover who
you are. We will go step by step to unravel
your past, to get you into the present as you.
We will begin by discovering how some of us learned
to be someone else, learned to play a role, began wearing
a maskand it all begins in childhood.
CHILDHOOD IN THE DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY
Growing up in a dysfunctional family, the baby, you,
began to express yourselfyour wants, your likes
and your dislikes. You soon learned that you were not
free to have an opinion different than the adults. You
learned to feel fear because you could not make yourself
heard, much less understood. This leads to a fear that
your needs will not be fulfilled, such as: thirst, hunger,
sleep, peace and quiet, happiness, time to play, and
positive attention from parents or adults. Your next
survival thought is "How can I get what I want
without directly asking for it?" From this lack
of freedom to be honest about who I am,
we learn to build a life on make-believe, we learn to
play a role: become an actress or an actor, just to
get our needs or wants met or to get the attention of
someone we want to love us. Becoming dysfunctionalwearing
a mask or playing a roleis a survival technique
in a dysfunctional family. We grow up concentrating
on other peoples wants and dont
wants. Based upon the other persons wants
we know which mask to wear to get our I wants
fulfilled. This is how we learn to play a role and put
on a mask. All this to convince or trick the other person
into giving us what we want. Some of us play as many
or more than 20 roles: always being someone else, wearing
masks, living a make-believe life, never being able
to be ourselves. I call these masks, ego-personalities.