Chapter One
continued:
HOW
DO YOU KNOW WHEN YOU ARE AN ‘EGO-PERSONALITY’ INSTEAD OF YOUR SOUL?
Answer these questions: After being with a friend, evaluate your own behavior
and words.
1. Were you on automatic pilot?
2. Did the words come out as
if you had a script, or were you spontaneous and gently honest about what you
thought, wanted, or felt?
3. Did you try to hide your feelings so that the
other person would not know them?
4. Did you agree when you really wanted
to disagree? Did you see through the act of your friend?
5. Did you feel your
friend’s real feelings behind the facade he or she was trying to portray?
6. Did you say anything to your friend to draw out these hidden feelings?
Happiness is your key to being the ‘soul-personality’! Your key! When
you are the soul personality you are doing what your soul:
o wants to do right
now
o wants to say right now
o wants to be right now
If you are where
your soul wants to be, then you are happy: happy in what you are doing right now,
happy with what you have right now, happy with where you are right now. Happiness
is only achieved by being the soul personality. The real you, your soul, is making
decisions of what to do, where to go, and what to say. When this is how you make
your decisions, then your soul is happy. The soul is depressed in the person who
is lead by ‘ego-personalities.’ The soul must make the decisions. Decisions,
soul decisions, are very easy to make. Decide what will make you happy and that
will be the soul’s decision. Happiness is the key to being the ‘soul-personality,’
and being the soul is being the true you. As you experience your soul speaking
and deciding, you can then say, "I know who I am. I am my soul."Stepping
Stone Four: What do you do when someone is sad?
We, who are dysfunctional
people, people with ‘ego-personalities,’ tend to hide our feelings.
We do not tell anyone when we are sad, hurt or disappointed. We lie to each other
about how life is going for us. We tend to cry by ourselves because we somehow
know that no one will understand—and worse, that no one will be able to make
it better. This comes from being a child—crying—without being able to
tell anyone why—and worse—no one wanted to know. There was no one to
make it better. We need to share our feelings with each other. We need to listen
to each other and make it better for each other. Say "I am so sorry about
what happened to you or that you had to go through that," when someone is
sad about an experience. Give comfort, and, even though you may not totally understand
someone’s pain, do understand that your friend has pain.Stepping Stone Five:
Learn to love people’s souls
Enjoy interacting with people. Look behind
what people say to you—look behind the front that some souls hide behind—look
at the person—not the act that they are putting on. Look at the soul—look
into the eyes—not at the body. Find friends that you can trust to treat you
well—to love who you are—and whose personality you like. Choose people
who like your soul—who see your soul and not your body. Speak to the soul
within the person and notice who talks back to your soul. Be with people who are
like you, and with whom you can be yourself, not an actor or an actress, but a
‘sole/soul-personality.’ Find friends who will talk to you in a positive
manner, with respect and encouragement. It is harder to climb to the top when
people are putting you down.Stepping Stone Six: Think: How do I feel and what
do I want?
When asked, "What do you want? What do you feel?" people
who have been raised by ‘ego-personalities’ will not know how to answer.
A person raised by ‘ego-personalities’ is numb to pain, to criticism,
to hatred, and until his or her feelings are awakened to know, "What am I
feeling now?" this person may go through life accustomed to the level of
pain, or numb to the pain with which he/she was raised.
Say to yourself:
"To know what I want I must know what I am feeling. How do I feel now? What
do I want to do now, this minute? "
Ask yourself this several times
a day. Ask yourself when you are alone and when you are with each person in your
life. After you know what you want to do that will make you happy then go and
do it. Remember we cannot force another person to make our happiness. We each
must decide what to do, where to go, or where to be in this moment where we will
be happy. Unhappiness is not being where you should be in this moment. Depression
is when your soul is unhappy with where or who you are right now.
Say:
"I do not have to live in pain, I am in charge of my time and my space."
Then act to change your life for a new life where you are free to be the happy
you—the ‘sole/soul-personality.’
Answer the following questions:
(Say the first words that come to mind.)
o I feel good when I am with ......................or
doing..............
o I feel terrible when I am with.................................or
doing..........................
o I feel great when I am with ....................
or doing........................
o What do I want to do now........................................(be
spontaneous)
o Where do I want to be now.......................................
Once we know what we want, it takes courage to be able to say it to a friend,
mate, or work partner. It takes practice to form a good habit in exchange for
a bad habit. The first step is to KNOW. The second step is to DO.
Always let
happiness be your signal. When you are talking to a friend, there will be a moment
when you want to leave. That is your signal from your soul that you must go somewhere
else or do something else to be happy. When you do not leave when your soul wants
to, the soul get sad or angry—depressed—in a negative mood. Be truthful
about what your soul wants to do and do it. Happiness will follow you always.Stepping
Stone Seven: I know what and I know how!
Words have power to build and to
heal; and words have the power to destroy and to poison. We build or destroy with
our words. When we say, "I don’t know how, I don’t know what, I
don’t know who, I don’t know this or that," we are commanding our
subconscious mind to be silent. Command your subconscious mind to give you the
information by saying,
I know
I know how
I know why
I know who
I know what.
When you begin to say, ‘I know,’ instead of, ‘I
don’t know,’ you will begin to experience what a creative genius experiences
when he or she creates, invents—thinks. The answer comes to each one differently
but the answer does come as a thought, an idea, or in words from a voice inside
your heart; in your sleep, in a dream or in a flash as if a picture appeared in
your mind.Stepping Stone Eight: Saying what you feel and think.
Speak without
emotion, but with conviction, and with the attitude that "it is my turn to
speak and my turn to express my opinion."
Say "I think ..............................."
Ask: "What do you think?"
Say "I feel..................................."
Ask: "What do you feel?"
Say "My opinion is...................."
Ask: "What is your opinion?"
Make your life the life that you want
to live, that you are happy to live and that you look forward to living. Do not
remain silent, and let life go past you; or you will be living in an imaginary
world inside of your head.
SEE MOVIE: DAD: This is a film about an older man
who has lived his life in his mind because real life has been a disappointment
to him. He has a wife who has told him what to do, and how to do it, and he has
never had the strength to be himself, to do what he wants, or to know what he
wants. He has come home every night of his life, and has sat in his chair, and
slept in front of the TV, or so it has appeared. Instead of sleeping he has been
daydreaming: living another life (the life his soul has yearned for) with another
wife, and another family, on a farm. His dream life is revealed as his mind weakens
in old age, and he starts asking about his dream children, and his dream wife.
This movie is an example of what we must remember—and that is—to let
our soul speak and act, and to disassociate ourselves from the robot within—the
ego personalities—the subconscious mind -the automatic pilot life—which
makes us act according to what other people want instead of what we want.
Stepping Stone Nine: How am I ruled by automatic pilot?
o How am I being controlled?
o Habits—how do your habits control you? Are your habits good for you or
are they ruining your life—creating disease?
List your habits here:
1.
2.
3.
ADDICTIVE HABITS
The goal of the soul is to be happy,
creative, inventive and to be a leader. The addictions of the body: drugs, alcohol,
sex and food do not allow the soul to be any of the above. So how do we get over
the addiction and on to the act of being the soul: the creative, happy, inventive
leader that we are inside? Ancient Chinese healing consisted of manipulation of
the joints (chiropractic), acupuncture, herbal medicine and food (nutritional
consultation). They believed that there were five flavors that stimulated the
10 organs of the body and that if the five flavors were eaten daily there would
be balance in the personality of the person. You can make your food using the
five flavors by correctly seasoning your food, and in the selection of the foods
you eat.
THE FIVE FLAVORS
o Sour stimulates the liver and the gallbladder......lemon
o Bitter stimulates the heart and the small intestine.......green vegetables
o Sweet stimulates the spleen and the stomach............honey, red vegetables
o Pungent stimulates the large intestine and the lungs.....garlic, ginger etc.
o Salty stimulates the kidneys and the bladder........salt, soy sauce, Braggs
These five flavors should be in your diet daily to keep the balance of the ten
organs. If the balance is disturbed, you will feel a craving for any thing from
bread and sugar to drugs or medications. Take the emergency five flavors by finger-tip
taste hourly to stop cravings (it worked on one man to get him off heroin with
no side affects) and to balance your moods.
THE EMERGENCY FIVE FLAVORS:
Take them by fingertip taste as many times as necessary to feel the craving go
away. Carry these flavors with you in a small five compartment pill box.
Sour...........lemon
peel
Bitter..........celery seeds
Sweet..........sugar
Pungent......cayenne
pepper
Salty............salt
Read the book, The Five Flavor Diet by Paulette
Renee Broqueville.
EATING HABITS
Bad habits: Eating a diet poor in nutrition,
‘junk food’ or processed foods ‘fast foods’ such as: sugar,
sodas (diet sodas included), chocolate, hamburgers, hot dogs, tacos, desserts,
alcohol, wine, beer, and candy. Did you know that poor nutrition gives us malnutrition
or vitamin and mineral deficiencies which cause mental, emotional and physical
symptoms sometimes called diseases: ADD, hypertension, insanity, diabetes, heart
disease, malfunction of organs: pancreas, gall bladder, kidneys, bladder, liver,
stomach, and intestines; hormone imbalances: PMS, menopausal symptoms, and others.
Take care of your mind—it is the brain of your soul. Thinking and loving
are the primary functions of the soul and we cannot think if we are too tired,
weak, drunk, drugged, or confused because we are low in vitamins.
Good habits:
Eating multi-colored salads, stir-fried vegetables, juiced vegetable drinks, and
steamed vegetables. The color of the vegetable tells you which antioxidant, which
vitamin it contains. We need all of the nutrients, so eat all colors of the rainbow
when you eat vegetables. If you are a farmer, rotate your crops; let the land
rest between plantings so that it can replenish itself with minerals and vitamins.
A vegetable or fruit without flavor is a food without the full nutrients it should
have gotten from the land. Add to this, fresh fruits, grains and whole grain breads,
vegetable oils (they contain vitamins A,D, and E), fresh fish, fowl, and meats,
with plenty of eggs. Eggs contain the good cholesterol which your body needs to
make hormones. Take care of your body—it is the home of your soul.DRINKING
HABITS
Bad habits: Excessive caffeine, too much coffee, sodas or chocolate.
Too much alcohol, beer or wine.
Good habits: Plenty of water. Your body is
made of water and salt; drink half your weight in ounces. If you weigh 50 pounds,
drink 25 ounces per day or you will become dehydrated. Drink more than half of
your weight in ounces and you wash out your electrolytes: sodium and potassium
are necessary for normal nerve function. Also drink fruit and vegetable juices
unless you have a sugar imbalance; then it is better not to drink juices, but
to eat the vegetable or fruit. If you lose energy when you drink fruit or vegetable
juices, it means that you have absorbed too much sugar for your body.
Read
the book: Your Body’s Many Cries for Water by F. Batmanghelidj, M.D.DRUG
HABITS
Bad habits: Taking street drugs or prescription drugs to make you feel
loved and feel good or to forget your problems. Smoking cigarettes, or drinking
alcohol to forget what your life has become.
Good habits: Seek professional
help to solve the past hurts so that you do not have to take a drug to forget
it. Live in the present and find happiness in being pain free, in charge of your
life, and in fulfilling your own I WANTS. Separate your soul from the ‘ego-personalities’
and do what your soul wants to do. Live the life that your soul wants to live.
Take Multiple B vitamins, they control the personality and without proper levels
of B vitamins in your system you will have: PMS (B2, niacin, B1, and B6), personality
imbalances, some insanities (niacin), excess anger (B1), depression (niacin),
irritation (B1): all negative traits.SEXUAL HABITS
Bad habits: Having sex
with someone you do not know, who does not love you and whom you do not love.
Being promiscuous because of an inability to say ‘NO’ or fulfilling
a desire to have power over another person. Having sex to feel masculine or feminine,
or to feel loved or to just feel alive. Sex is a habit. It may take years to control
a bad sex habit. The goal is to make love, soul to soul, instead of body to body.
Good habits: Having sex with someone who does love you and whom you love—a
committed relationship.
If you have an unhealthy sex life, seek professional
help and resolve your past hurts. Begin having sex for positive reasons not negative
reasons. Think about your past sexual relationships. How have they affected your
sexual habits? How has sexual abuse affected your sexual self? Have you had sexual
partners who have affected your sexual behavior such as having partners who were:
sadomasochists, sexually abused as a child, or afraid that sex is bad.
List
the habits that you feel you would like to get rid of so that you can have more
spontaneous lovemaking with your partner—loving each other’s souls.
1.
2.
3.
Have drugs or alcohol changed your sexual habits?
The
soul has the best habits—the natural way. The ‘ego personalities’
need drugs and alcohol and lines to give them personality; they need toys and
games to arouse themselves sexually. The natural soul personality interacts with
the soul, the heart, and the mind of his or her partner in lovemaking. The ‘ego-personalities’
have a different life style of having sex, food, and drink than the ‘soul
personality.’ The ‘ego-personalities’ prefer the ‘plastic’
synthetic life style and the ‘soul-personality’ prefers the natural
life style.1. Are you using sex to get affection?
2. Are you giving affection—without
sex?
3. Are you receiving affection from the people you love?
4. Do you
need toys and games to enjoy sex with your partner?
5. Are you having sex
with ego personalities?
6. Are you a conglomerate of ego personalities having
sex with your partner?
Did you know that if a baby is not touched, not held
and loved, that it will die, from lack of affection and love; even if it is given
food and drink from a bottle?
Is your soul crying to be touched?
Is your
soul crying out for affection and love?
Is your soul slowly dying from lack
of love?
Look for—pray for—search for people who will love you and
whom you will love. Make love your goal. Think of your soul as a tiny baby inside
of you.
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